So we left off talking about how a good opinion opener can open any set, anytime, anywhere. If you're going to figure out how to sexually attract women this is the next tool to add to your belt.
The opinion opener should become your opener of choice in most instances. Now we are going to look at a different type of opener, it is still indirect because the intent of the opener is not to convey interest. This time we are going to take it a step further and actually say something to potentially dis-include yourself from being a potential suitor. This type of opener is also used to make sure that your target knows that you do not think that she has more value than you. Due to this fact the delivery of this type of opener has to be delivered appropriately. For example you are standing next to your target at the bar and you look over and notice that she has fake nails. So you say "I really like your nails, are they real?" HB: "Oh thanks, but no." You: "Oh well they still look nice I guess."
The conversation would continue from there but now the HB starts from the bottom position. No girl wants to admit that her hair, nails, eyelashes, or boobs are fake as a first impression. You continue give DHV's (Demonstrations of Higher Value) while she now tries to work her way back into your good graces by trying to prove that even though her nails are fake that she isn't.
Another example of this would be saying "Wow I really like your outfit it must be really popular because I saw a girl at the last bar I was at wearing the same thing." Even though you are complimenting them on one level by commenting about the outfit being worn by someone else you make her feel like she now has to prove that she is original. All of these are tactics used to sexually attract women. Now this should only be used with very attractive women HB9 or better. Using this with a HB7 or HB8 can potentially hurt their feelings and destroy the set.
The introduction of a neg (A comment used to pick on your target and lower her respective value). Now a neg should never be used to degrade women or truly hurt their feelings. Very attractive women are use to guys being truly mean to them especially if they have just turned that guy down. So you don't want to make them shut down you just want to give them a reason to want to prove their worth to you. Did you see that, the secret to sexually attracting women; make them prove their worth to you, not the other way around.
So there is the last component of the opener and there are a ton of them out there. The best openers are relevant to the situation and don't convey interest. So keep on learning and I'm Out!
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Thursday, March 13, 2008
Online Dating Tips To Help You Succeed
So far in 'No Drama Online Dating', I have attempted to cover both the very basics of online dating, as well as some more advanced tips and suggestions that you should bear in mind and put into action, to give yourself the greatest chance of success.
So, here would be a very good point to summarize most of the key points already covered in this book. First, focus on getting your profile right.
It's already been explained in detail just how important it is to get your profile spot on the nail, and why you simply cannot afford to try to work with any online dating website that does not allow you to have one.
Without a profile, you have no way of telling the world about you, and what you are looking for, and thus, there is equally little chance of you ever meeting someone with similar interests to you.
When creating your profile, remember that you should:
• Always use positive, happy and inviting language about both you and the person that you seek.
• Use photos to show that you are a normal cheerful person. Include as many appealing images as you can, ideally shot in differing situations, to show that you are always a cheerful and happy person.
• Think of and use the all-important key words in your profile descriptions, so that the people who search out and find your profile will know that you have many things in common. Remember to ask yourself what it is that you are looking for, in order to make sure that the key words you use do what you want them to do. The second thing that you must do is to get off your backside to take the vital first step, and do not wait for others to do so.
Stop hoping that others will find you - get active in the online dating community right now.
Remember that taking the first step will appear decisive (which is likely to help create a positive fist impression) and it also puts you in control of the situation to an extent, too.
Your profile is designed to attract them. But it cannot do the whole job for you. You are still required to make the required effort if you want to stand any chance of finding your perfect match.
Once you do actually get up the courage to make contact with a person, and meet with them, be sure that you have lots of interesting questions, so that it becomes relatively easy to keep the conversation going.
If you do not, then you are really never giving yourself any chance at all of success, and are basically wasting your time.
Remember that you only have a limited amount of backand- forth emails or chats in which to get their telephone number, and that if either you or they get bored, then the opportunity has probably gone forever.
On the other hand, don't try to rush things along too much, and accept that, however frustrating it might be, online dating is something that will inevitably take time to produce results.
Just like 'real world' dating, all relationships have their own unique dynamics, and you cannot try to rush things into happening too quickly.
The Best UK Dating Sites Reviewed for You
So, here would be a very good point to summarize most of the key points already covered in this book. First, focus on getting your profile right.
It's already been explained in detail just how important it is to get your profile spot on the nail, and why you simply cannot afford to try to work with any online dating website that does not allow you to have one.
Without a profile, you have no way of telling the world about you, and what you are looking for, and thus, there is equally little chance of you ever meeting someone with similar interests to you.
When creating your profile, remember that you should:
• Always use positive, happy and inviting language about both you and the person that you seek.
• Use photos to show that you are a normal cheerful person. Include as many appealing images as you can, ideally shot in differing situations, to show that you are always a cheerful and happy person.
• Think of and use the all-important key words in your profile descriptions, so that the people who search out and find your profile will know that you have many things in common. Remember to ask yourself what it is that you are looking for, in order to make sure that the key words you use do what you want them to do. The second thing that you must do is to get off your backside to take the vital first step, and do not wait for others to do so.
Stop hoping that others will find you - get active in the online dating community right now.
Remember that taking the first step will appear decisive (which is likely to help create a positive fist impression) and it also puts you in control of the situation to an extent, too.
Your profile is designed to attract them. But it cannot do the whole job for you. You are still required to make the required effort if you want to stand any chance of finding your perfect match.
Once you do actually get up the courage to make contact with a person, and meet with them, be sure that you have lots of interesting questions, so that it becomes relatively easy to keep the conversation going.
If you do not, then you are really never giving yourself any chance at all of success, and are basically wasting your time.
Remember that you only have a limited amount of backand- forth emails or chats in which to get their telephone number, and that if either you or they get bored, then the opportunity has probably gone forever.
On the other hand, don't try to rush things along too much, and accept that, however frustrating it might be, online dating is something that will inevitably take time to produce results.
Just like 'real world' dating, all relationships have their own unique dynamics, and you cannot try to rush things into happening too quickly.
The Best UK Dating Sites Reviewed for You
Online Dating - Writing the Perfect Profile
Your profile is your key to attracting prospective partners on any internet dating site. Everything that your future date knows about you comes from that profile and the information they find there is what they use when deciding whether or not to contact you. This is why it is so important to get your profile right.
The first feature of a profile to catch the eye is usually the photograph. I have already covered this subject at some length in a previous article and so I will not go into great detail about the photograph here. I will just say 'Choose a picture that is recent, accurate, and presents yourself in a positive light.
After this most of your profile should be straightforward to complete. Name, Age, Location, etc. should not present too many problems, just remember to be truthful as you fill in these fields, object of completing this profile is to meet people and anything that you say in your profile that doesn't reflect the truth will soon be exposed when you meet in person.
The most difficult areas of your profile to write are usually the 'About me' and the 'Hobbies and Interests' sections. It is worth taking some time to consider what to write in these areas.
What image do you want to present? It is important to be truthful but everyone has different sides to their personality, and you need to decide how you want to appear. It's easy to write the first thing that comes into your head, but a better idea is to take a piece of paper and jot down your key personality traits and put them in order of their importance to you.
Once you have finished doing this for the 'About Me' then repeat it for the 'Hobbies and Interests' fields. Once you have written out your lists you should have a much clearer idea of how to frame your profile.
One note of caution, there is no need to list every single hobby you have ever engaged in. An overload of information will just cause unneeded confusion, and may even stop someone from contacting you. Choose two or three of your major interests and list a little about each of them, this provides the opportunity for your date to ask questions about these things when they contact you for the first time.
If you are really stuck for ideas then it can be worth taking a look at some other profiles on the site, and see how other people are presenting themselves. Don't copy another profile, but there is nothing wrong with adapting it for your own use.
The most important thing about your profile is to be yourself, you will be much more successful if you present yourself to prospective partners than if you pretend to be someone that you are not.
Peter Townsend is the founder of http://www.SouthEastLondonDating.com He has been writing and publishing articles on a variety of subjects for the last ten years. He lives in south east London with his wife Mona, and spends his time re-publishing public domain works for http://www.TownsendPublications.com
The first feature of a profile to catch the eye is usually the photograph. I have already covered this subject at some length in a previous article and so I will not go into great detail about the photograph here. I will just say 'Choose a picture that is recent, accurate, and presents yourself in a positive light.
After this most of your profile should be straightforward to complete. Name, Age, Location, etc. should not present too many problems, just remember to be truthful as you fill in these fields, object of completing this profile is to meet people and anything that you say in your profile that doesn't reflect the truth will soon be exposed when you meet in person.
The most difficult areas of your profile to write are usually the 'About me' and the 'Hobbies and Interests' sections. It is worth taking some time to consider what to write in these areas.
What image do you want to present? It is important to be truthful but everyone has different sides to their personality, and you need to decide how you want to appear. It's easy to write the first thing that comes into your head, but a better idea is to take a piece of paper and jot down your key personality traits and put them in order of their importance to you.
Once you have finished doing this for the 'About Me' then repeat it for the 'Hobbies and Interests' fields. Once you have written out your lists you should have a much clearer idea of how to frame your profile.
One note of caution, there is no need to list every single hobby you have ever engaged in. An overload of information will just cause unneeded confusion, and may even stop someone from contacting you. Choose two or three of your major interests and list a little about each of them, this provides the opportunity for your date to ask questions about these things when they contact you for the first time.
If you are really stuck for ideas then it can be worth taking a look at some other profiles on the site, and see how other people are presenting themselves. Don't copy another profile, but there is nothing wrong with adapting it for your own use.
The most important thing about your profile is to be yourself, you will be much more successful if you present yourself to prospective partners than if you pretend to be someone that you are not.
Peter Townsend is the founder of http://www.SouthEastLondonDating.com He has been writing and publishing articles on a variety of subjects for the last ten years. He lives in south east London with his wife Mona, and spends his time re-publishing public domain works for http://www.TownsendPublications.com
The 3 Stages of Courtship
There are three stages of attraction, and it is very important that you go through all three, IN ORDER.
1. Attraction
2. Comfort
3. Seduction
Now, the reason that it is important to go through each of these stages is because if you skip one, than you are going to be labeled as something.
For example, lets say that you skip stage one, and go to stage two. This is where you are going to make the girl feel good and comfortable around you. Doing this will easily drop you into the "lets just be friends" or "Nice guy" category.
Let's say that you skip the first TWO stages, and go directly to stage three. This is very dangerous, because the girl has not built attraction to you, and they aren't comfortable with you. This will drop you into the "creepy guy" category. Chances are they are going to just see you as another guy hitting on them.
Next, there is the guy that does get attraction from the women. However, he skips over the second step, and goes straight to the third step of seduction. Now, this girl has not built rapport with the guy, and she does not feel comfort with him, so he is now looked at as a "player".
The final common mistake that men make is probably the worst. Some men develop the attraction. Then they even make the girl comfortable, but they never cross that hump into the third stage of seduction. So now, the women has this guy that she is attracted to, but he is afraid to seduce her. THIS IS BAD. Women, believe it or not, want to be seduced, they just don't want men to know it, and they don't want men to jump straight to it.
So, as you can see, the only real option that you have with these stages is to go through EACH stage, and in order. You can't go from end to beginning, or middle to end. You MUST start at stage one, and go to stage three. Now, be mindful that some of these stages do not take very long to go through. You could easily build attraction and comfort in a matter of hours, or even minutes. However, it is imperative that you go through each of these steps if you want women to really like you.
Jake has been studying human behavior for years, and has many proven ways of approaching women and getting into a relationship. To learn more techniques, visit Jakes blog at http://www.meetingwomen101.blogspot.com
1. Attraction
2. Comfort
3. Seduction
Now, the reason that it is important to go through each of these stages is because if you skip one, than you are going to be labeled as something.
For example, lets say that you skip stage one, and go to stage two. This is where you are going to make the girl feel good and comfortable around you. Doing this will easily drop you into the "lets just be friends" or "Nice guy" category.
Let's say that you skip the first TWO stages, and go directly to stage three. This is very dangerous, because the girl has not built attraction to you, and they aren't comfortable with you. This will drop you into the "creepy guy" category. Chances are they are going to just see you as another guy hitting on them.
Next, there is the guy that does get attraction from the women. However, he skips over the second step, and goes straight to the third step of seduction. Now, this girl has not built rapport with the guy, and she does not feel comfort with him, so he is now looked at as a "player".
The final common mistake that men make is probably the worst. Some men develop the attraction. Then they even make the girl comfortable, but they never cross that hump into the third stage of seduction. So now, the women has this guy that she is attracted to, but he is afraid to seduce her. THIS IS BAD. Women, believe it or not, want to be seduced, they just don't want men to know it, and they don't want men to jump straight to it.
So, as you can see, the only real option that you have with these stages is to go through EACH stage, and in order. You can't go from end to beginning, or middle to end. You MUST start at stage one, and go to stage three. Now, be mindful that some of these stages do not take very long to go through. You could easily build attraction and comfort in a matter of hours, or even minutes. However, it is imperative that you go through each of these steps if you want women to really like you.
Jake has been studying human behavior for years, and has many proven ways of approaching women and getting into a relationship. To learn more techniques, visit Jakes blog at http://www.meetingwomen101.blogspot.com
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