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Friday, June 30, 2006

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Feelings
By Nancy Arora

What are feelings?Why are feelings?Which are feelings?When are feelings?Feelings, feelings and
feelingsWhen these come to our heart?

Feeling is to feel. But to feel what, to feel for whom, and to feel why. But then also there are feelings.

To feel the sensation of love is known as feeling, or too feel hatred for some one is feeling. To feel good or to feel bad is what, whether it is our state of mind, or the state of our heart.
What lets us to feel all those feelings, whether our mind commands us to do so or our heart automatically feels.

Feeling of sound in silence is also feeling, feeling of happiness in sadness is also feeling. But it can be the other way also. Might be we may feel sadness when there is happiness all around, or we may listen to no sound when there is lots of sound nearby.

Feeling of beauty even when there is no beauty, feeling of being alone when everyone is around us.

Sometimes, we feel love for the person whom we have never met. But then also we have got those feelings for that person which we just cannot express. Because we ourselves don’t know why is this feeling within us. We keep on thinking for that person for days’ and nights and still we don’t have a single reason that why are we feeling all this. We use to feel his/her presence along with us every time. We use to talk even when we are alone, we use to laugh even when there is nothing to laugh and sometimes we even cry but why all these feelings are coming is just not known.

At times we feel melody in the blowing of air, in the flowing of water, in speak less night, in the singing of birds. We feel all this but still we don’t know why is this so, for whom we are feeling all this. Even we don’t know when we started feeling all this.
We are on and on to feel, but we don’t know the reason. We are feeling what, why, we don’t know.

We just feel each and every moment of these feelings. Feelings enter our soul, our heart without letting us to know. But we just feel and feel.

we sit alone in the night watching the twinkling stars and we have a feeling that someone is holding us in his/her arms, we listens to someone's voice, we feel a kind of strength in the blowing of air and lots more.

At times the feelings are for that person with whom we are in touch. We feel love for the people we meet; we feel hatred for the people we meet. In any case whether we know that person or we don’t know person we have feelings but when these come within us, we just don’t know. We just feel and ask ourselves.

So, just feel, don’t rum behind that why they are there for whom they are there. Your own feelings will some day answer you about all this. So feel the feelings, as one day these feelings will themselves let you know about their being in your life.

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Wednesday, June 14, 2006

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The Sex Trap: When Singles Confuse Sex and LoveBy David Steele

As I had my morning coffee, the "Dear Abby" column caught my eye. A reader wrote in with a dating dilemma and ended her letter with that often-heard stereotype that "Women use sex to get love, and men use love to get sex." This is a great summation of the "Sex Trap."

For singles who fall into the Sex Trap, having sex carries immense meaning and consequences.

Singles fall into the Sex Trap in one (or both) of two ways:

A. they believe sex is a necessary test of compatibility, (if the sex is good then the relationship will be good as well)

B. more commonly, all consciousness goes out the window, and one or both formerly level-headed singles consider themselves a committed couple as soon as they have sex.

So, rather than looking at whether this other person might be a match on levels other than physical attraction — such as long-term requirements, needs, and wants — they are blind-sided by the chemistry under the covers.

Chemicals and Chemistry

No doubt, it can be challenging to keep in touch with reality when all those hormones are running wild. Our body reacts to someone we are attracted to by producing hormones such as PEA or phenylethylamine (natural amphetamine), dopamine and norepinephrine (natural mood enhancers), and testosterone (increases sexual desire), which makes the opportunity to have sex with someone we are attracted to extremely hard to resist. Then, after orgasm, we produce oxytocin (which acts on the hypothalamus to produce emotions), which makes us feel very close to and bonded with our sex partner.

These chemical reactions are involuntary and strong, leading to powerful feelings of attraction, excitement, love, closeness, and well-being.

But when problems arise, those who fall into the Sex Trap often rationalize by thinking, "Well, we've got problems, but the sex is great!" They most likely wouldn't admit it, but they prioritize physical intimacy and regard the rest as optional. Their main tool for making a partner choice is sexual attraction and physical compatibility.

A Guy Thing?

Barry North, a relationship coach who works primarily with gay men, says that many of his clients have fallen into the Sex Trap.

"For gay men especially in metropolitan areas, sex is readily available, and that in itself is a trap," North says. "In addition, the culture, with its emphasis on physical appearance, encourages sexual activity. Many gay men want to find out from the beginning if a potential partner is going to be sexually compatible. Why waste your time if the sex isn't going to be good?"

Nonetheless, North adds, "I suspect this is a 'guy' thing rather than a 'gay' thing."

I do want to point out that chemistry is important. Yet, chemistry is a given that we can't control in a relationship; it is either there or not there, and it must be there for the partnership to work. If not there, we can't "make" chemistry happen, though sometimes it can grow over time.

Singles who pursue a relationship based upon sexual chemistry risk relationship failure when the hormone-induced intoxication wears off and reality hits.

For Conscious Dating: Combine Chemistry with Common Sense

To avoid the Sex Trap, you must balance your heart (and hormones) with your head. This means combining chemistry with common sense. While good sex is important for a sustainable relationship, you need to make your partner choices by paying full attention to your vision, values, goals and requirements — while feeling all those exciting sparks!

Copyright 2006 David Steele

David Steele, MA, LMFT is founder of Relationship Coaching Institute and author of the ground-breaking new book for singles Conscious Dating: Finding the Love of Your Life in Today's World. http://www.consciousdating.com/book.htm

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Sunday, June 11, 2006

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How To Attract Exactly Who You Want

Do you wish you could attract exactly who you want? Do you want to have more dates and more choices? Would you like to meet the person of your dreams? Perhaps you need to discover the rules of attraction.

There are five rules that will bring you more of what you want: more choices, more love, and more happiness. When clients come to me looking for a relationship, we concentrate on these rules of attraction. Following these rules puts them in control of their destiny.

Five Rules of Attraction to Get Exactly Who You Want

1. Look for signs of love.
Change your negative picture that love does not exist. Since your thoughts become your reality, you need to look for signs of love between a man and a woman. If you do not think love happens except in the movies, it may take you a while to see it in others. But it is out there. Start writing down the positive examples of love that you see. This will become your book of evidence that you can refer to when you get discouraged. These new examples become some of your new thoughts.

2. Believe that you will find love.
If you believe that you can find your mate, you will. If you believe that you can't, you won't. Other people have found their soul mate...you can too.

3. Focus on what you want.
We get what we focus on. Think about what kind of relationship you would like to have. Dream big. Make a list of the top ten qualities you would like to have in another. Whenever your thoughts and feelings go to hopeless, change your thoughts. Cut pictures out of a magazine that show a man and a woman enjoying their time together, whether walking on a beach or sharing a candlelit dinner. Post these pictures in a place where you can see them often. When you look at them several times a day, see yourself in that picture.

4. Surround your vision of the relationship you want with feeling.
When you look at pictures of couples having fun, or when you see others enjoying each other, imagine that you are doing the same. Feel it happening to you. See yourself having the relationship you have always wanted.

5. Become the person you are looking for.
This is the most important law of attraction. You attract who you are. What kind of person do you want to find? Are you that person? Get busy becoming the wonderful person you would like to share your life with. If you are depressed or despairing, get help. Remember to fill yourself with positive energy by doing activities that you love. Sort out your finances, handle your past baggage, make your living environment something you are proud of that gives you peace and comfort, and surround yourself with friends and family members who support you. It is from this space that you create someone who will love you.
And finally, be a generous spirit...to yourself and to others. We find someone to love when we love ourselves in a kind and nurturing way. You deserve to love and be loved. And remember...someone waits for you.

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Book Review: SEDUCTION SCIENCE

First glace at the Seduction Science system smacks like a shameless ad for the latest "miracle product." It promises everything:

Strip shyness
Get women wet instantly
Templates that offers "ten sure-fire ways to get laid."
Conversastional hypnosis that kicks her lust onto overdrive!

Truly exciting, but before coughing the cash, let's look at it closely.

Is it bull... or the next best thing to transforming into Tom Cruise? I bought the book to slough away the hype and peek behind thecurtain of near-nude women to help you make an informed decision.

You receive four e-books. This means instantaneous access. Get your ink cartridges ready!

The system is well organized, attractively laid out and ready to get you laid. More than 150 pages, you'll end up giving Epson a workout.

But is it worth it?

Contents follow the format of magazine article: warm and encouraging. You'll kick off with mind-spinning exercises for supreme relaxation and utter confidence. Based on NLP, the exercises don't even require that you understand what "NLP" means. But don't fret -- the exercises march by in easy, by-the-numbers layout.

It's vital that set aside 2 hours a day to run the exercises to master the books. All in all, you'll find them practical, potent and very natural (no crazy phrases to rote memorize!) You'll master feeling positive, launching killer opening line, and hypnotic conversational mastery.

It's obvious: I like it. I learned much despite my prior background as a seasoned NLP Practitioner.

The first volume offers specific action plans. You learn what to do and say. This is the spoon feeding part. From there, discussion moves on to building a framework of seduction whereby you build up with your own technique. What you create ultimately exceeds those narrated in the book. Imagine creating killer "moves" on the fly so you can get physical fast.

Each chapter closes with real world pickup strategies.

The second book bursts with image projection mastery tips. You need to go slow here because everything is a gold mine! Some topics:

* power dressing* getting better teeth* building your body for ultimate sexiness.* Alluring hygiene.

In the third volume, you enter the world of online pickups. Everything from finding the right chat mate to building up online sexual tension is covered.

The last book, "3 Master Keys to Pick-Up Lines," covers the best tactics of breaking the ice and building attraction under specific environments. It's short: 16 pages and serves as a good reference.

Closing Comments

Seduction Science may not win laurels as the ultimate source of attraction techniques to win women, but it does offer solid, practical and practicable methods to to winning women and developing fantastic relationships. Backed by 365 day money back guarantee and 60 days of live coaching, I say it may be one of the better $40 investments you'll make.

My cousin borrowed the book last December. My jaw dropped when he got laid that night.

Check out Seduction Science website. They have mounds of free articles even if you don't buy the book.

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The Truth About Attraction
By Derek Vitalio

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So many guys think you can improve your sexual quality by learning all sorts of special techniques. Sure, those are nice – but they’re closer to window dressing than the heart of the matter. What you REALLY need to do is engage her brain, activate her fantasies – and become that which TRULY turns her on. You’ll like this exercise

I want you to close your eyes. I want you to close your eyes and continue reading through squinty eyelids that you shut whenever you get enough info to run with it.

Now, I want you to think of the HOTTEST image you can.

It can be something you’ve done, something you’ve seen done, or just something you’ve dreamt of doing.

Paint the full picture. Really let yourself go, get randy, get to the point where it’s tough to just sit there without doing something ABOUT this amazing fantasy.

Once you’ve gotten the picture firmly in your head and you’ve, uh, concluded it, take a few moments to reflect.

What was it about the fantasy that turned you on?

It’s not the size of the wave, OR the motion of the ocean?

Now I don’t claim to have ANY idea what you personally find exciting, but I’m prepared to make a few generalities that will almost CERTAINLY apply.

It might have been location-specific, or person-specific, or attitude-specific.

But it wasn’t technique-specific.

What I mean by this is, you might have been on a secluded beach with three other ladies lapping at you – but you weren’t concerned with the exact motion of the flicks of their tongues (even if you know it through vivid imagination).

If you were making out, it might have been the EXCITEMENT of doing it in a hotel pool with lots of balconies around – but not the pattern of suction she applied to your lips.

Or if you were eating sushi off some naked Asian beauty, it was the fact that you were EATING SUSHI OFF SOME NAKED ASIAN BEAUTY, and didn’t have much to do with how you held the chopsticks.

Where are we going here?

Technique isn’t important. Ok, it’s important – but only in a secondary kind of way.

You’ve been duped too long!

‘Wait,’ you think, ‘What about Susie Q. who did this thing it drove me wild, that was technique!’

Yeah, that can happen. But only when you already LIKE someone, for the most part. Susie Q. already got you excited – so you were LOOKING for something to turn you wild. You were just helping her along.

Now, there are rare instances of a woman who has such AMAZING technique that she’ll keep her men around just for that.

But trust me, those are EXTREMELY rare instances, both because of the skill necessary and because, well, most men need something MORE than the pure physical pleasure of pleasing touches.

Don’t get me wrong, the pleasing touches are wonderful – they just can’t do the job alone.

Now, bearing in mind what it is that REALLY turns men on, remember this – for women, it’s even MORE about the fantasy and LESS the physicality.

Up to ten times more, in some cases.

And what is it that most books or programs try to teach a man to help his sex life?

Yep, techniques.

Hey, it can be handy to know the 1 o’clock hot spot or the Frisbee hold… in the same way it can be handy to know where the salad fork goes.

These things can help make an event that much more special, but if you can’t COOK, they don’t mean much.

So, sexually, how do you COOK?

Simple. You’ve got to plug into your lady’s brain.

Engage her mind, find out and then ACT OUT her fantasies. Don’t worry so much about stroke order until you’ve mastered the more ephemeral parts of sex.

And how do you do that?

If I had to sum it up in two words, I’d say Inner Confidence.

You need to be so COMFORTABLE in your sexual skin that you RELAX her. So OPEN and at ease that you bypass her nerves and shyness (and most women – even gregarious ones – are shy when you get to sexual fantasies).

You need to make her feel ok being open and vulnerable with you. And you do that not through cooing and being a girlie-man – but by being open and confident and completely natural about everything.

And then you need to LEAD her.

If her comfort and trust are what open the door, you’ve gotta take her hand and help her through it.

Think about it – you can NEVER achieve this sort of openness and freedom with another spontaneously or just because you WANT to – it MUST be actively brought out by your partner.

And then, once you’ve got access to her fantasies, start making them come TRUE. Trust me, if you truly get in her head, you can make a woman orgasm without even TOUCHING her.

And if you’ve got a lady having that much fun, she’s going to INSIST on sharing the pleasure.

So now you know WHAT to do – the question is HOW?

Where’s that recipe?

The answer is from WITHIN yourself. This is entirely an inside-to-outside enterprise.

To get at the BEST way to find your sexual confidence and fulfill your ladies’ fantasies, check out my program, Blissnosis.

In addition to helping you become the most confident kind of man, it covers literally HUNDREDS of other aspects of dating and romance. Best of all, it’s focused where most other books leave off – how to fulfill and KEEP a good woman satisfied and begging for more once you’ve found her.

Of course it will ALSO help you with every step from meeting to bedding – but nowhere else will you get truer advice on how to create and have a GREAT LASTING relationship – that is, if you aren’t looking to Dear Abby clones for dating advice.

Check out Blissnosis and you’ll see exactly what I mean – it will help you become a more desirable man in EVERY phase of the game.

Until Next Time,
Derek Vitalio
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How to REALLY Win Friends and Influence People
By Derek Vitalio

There’s a popular belief that you need to have a certain approach to have any success. Like for instance, you have to be extroverted and entertaining to get the ladies. It just ain’t so – the ONLY thing that matters is your relaxed CONFIDENCE and the way you PROJECT that confidence, using your body. After that, it’s just a matter of picking your own style.

Alright, what will fetch you more success – being introverted or extroverted?

I know you think YOU know what I want you to say. And maybe you’re right. After all, it’s a lot easier for extroverts to meet people than introverts, eh? There’s no doubting it. And extroverts also tend to be more personable, faster to charm, soakers of attention… while introverts often are alone in a corner.

BUT – and this is a big one – all the things that seem GOOD about an extrovert can be turned around on them. They can come off as insincere, eager to please, all that sort of negative stuff.

And the INTROVERT can come off as mysterious, confident, at home in his skin… all that sort of positive stuff.

No, really

I have a friend who is VERY shy, but he gets tons of ladies. How? He lets everyone else talk and blab and yabber away, all these guys trying to impress the women, and he just calmly listens from the edge of the group. Then, when he sees an opening, BAM, he makes one extremely insightful biting comment.

Usually the talkers sort of fade away after that, their confidence shattered by ONE well-thought out comment. My friend gradually takes a larger role in the discussion through cajoling, but for the most part he just LISTENS and saves everything up for an occasional GEM.

I’m not saying that introvert is the way to go, or that you should be gregarious all the time. In truth, a little of this and a little of that at different moments is the best approach, but it DOESN’T REALLY MATTER.

BOTH can work. Both DO work. Because the REAL discussion on this issue isn’t about how talkative you are.

That scale, taken alone, is meaningless. You could never shut up and it could be great or horrible – you could never say a word, same thing, it’s NOT about how much you talk or even how many conversations you start.

So what is it about?

What it REALLY is about is RELAXED CONFIDENCE. And you can act confident saying everything OR nothing.

This is just a roundabout way of me reinforcing one of my favorite points: it’s NOT what you say, it’s HOW you say it.

It’s in the attitude and the BODY language.

Am I a teacher? Or your inner smarty pants?

And of course you KNOW all this, deep in your bones. I’m just verbalizing it – which hopefully will make it easier to ACT using this knowledge.

For instance, if I show you two guys, one quietly leaning against a post with a sardonic smile, the other approaching EVERYONE with a nervous grin and speaking WAY too fast, barely breathing – which one do you think is more likely to go home with a girl?

Or if there’s a dude who has a relaxed funny answer to everything and plenty of interesting anecdotes and stories – and another guy is hunched over in a booth toying with his coaster and afraid to make eye contact with anyone, who’s getting the girl?

Congratulations, you’re right on both counts.

Because you already KNOW what you have to do.

In fact, MOST guys know EXACTLY what they have to do to get any woman at any time. It’s buried in our BONES, sometimes deeply, but it’s there.

Why, then, don’t we always GET the girl?

Good question, sad answer.

Man, men are screwy

Most of the time, it’s just because we’re SCARED to do it. Introverts and extroverts are BOTH convinced that THEY have a problem which prevents them from doing what they NEED to. The problem may seem different – introverts usually can’t get up the bravura needed, extroverts usually have too much nervous energy to listen to their knowledge when they need it – but in truth, it’s the SAME problem.

Because it’s just a matter of a limiting belief. You don’t think you can, and like the little engine’s evil twin, you can’t.

How’re we going to fix this huge little problem of ours?

This time, we’re getting at it from the outside in.

Practice time

We’re going to CARRY ourselves like we’ve got a great working relationship with our own knowledge, AND that we can act on it anytime it’s called for.

And pretty soon, it’ll become true.

If you’re extremely extroverted, practice THINKING before you say some things, make sure it’s the right thing to say. Don’t be afraid to take your time, everyone will still be listening two seconds from now.

If you’re too introverted, practice DOING exactly what you’re thinking. Even if it seems crazy and you’re ‘sure’ everyone else will hate it. Trust me, even if it bombs completely, it’s not that bad. And more likely, everyone will LOVE it because THEY know it’s the right thing too – they were just waiting for someone ELSE to do or say it.

As always, carry yourself standing tall. Expand yourself, don’t shrink (this especially goes for the heavier-set, who have a tendency to try and hide their belly which, ironically, makes it look larger as you slouch and double it up). Eliminate your eager language – no close talkers here. No soft talkers either – if you aren’t speaking loud enough for people near you to hear, you’re telling them ‘I’m not saying anything important’ or, worse, ‘I have ZERO confidence.’

Don’t get hung up on how MUCH or little you speak – just try to say everything with RELAXED CONFIDENCE.

That’s it. That’s ALL you need to worry about. Do everything else in the style and with the frequency that’s most comfortable to you – because you want to be as COMFORTABLE in your skin as possible. That’s the key.

Stop worrying over the things you THINK are hurdles, and start concentrating on the ones that really ARE in your way – things which you placed there yourself.

Get rid of them, and NOTHING will be able to stop you.

Check out my Seduction Science System which includes my Palm Reading ebook free of charge and you’ll see exactly what I mean – it will help you become a more desirable man in EVERY phase of the game.

Until Next Time,
Derek Vitalio

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