Many men find intimate relationships challenging. The reality is that most of us have not experienced being clear and powerful with women. Our culture is confused regarding masculinity and is desperately lacking positive role models. We have had absent or abusive Fathers and in the words of Tyler Derden from Fight Club we are, "a generation of Men raised by Women."
Suffering in the same environment, our Mothers may have turned to us to meet the needs that should have been met by their Father or Husband. Confused and overwhelmed we tried, but were unable to make our Mothers happy. All of this has left us feeling frustrated and powerless in relationships with Women.
Most of us have a hard time understanding our partners or meeting their needs. We have trouble finding the right partner or committing to the one we are with. We may have discovered ways to feel good and have success, but the relationship we desire is elusive. The answer to our problem is retrieving our Masculine Power and understanding how to be in relationship with the Feminine.
All functional cultures have a process for initiating young men into manhood. The young man is taken by Men from the merged Boyhood world of the Mother and initiated into the individuated Manhood world of the Husband/Father. The initiate gains the power to hunt for and protect the feminine. He also learns to be clear and powerful in intimate relationship with all of Life including Women.
Our culture lacks this process and we are suffering the results. Fortunately, this is not a life sentence. This initiation is available from Men who have been given this power and wish to pass it on. Imagine knowing your purpose in life and having the passion to pursue it. Now, imagine knowing how to satisfy your partner's needs in ways that increase your power. Set your intention to find this for yourself and claim the freedom, strength, and pride that is your birthright.
Richard Platt, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
Richard Platt founded Passion & Purpose, a practice committed to helping men create an inspiring relationship. Integrating wisdom traditions and modern psychology he has designed a unique program to help men discover their power.
He can be reached at richard@passionpurpose.org or 415-760-8541
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